“La Dolce Far Niente” – pleasant relaxation in carefree idleness (Italian, literally, sweet doing nothing).
Don’t you think that the art of doing nothing should be practised more often? There must be ways to incorporate la dolce far niente even if you are juggling a busy 9-5 job, very needy and loving spouse, gym sessions and the little ones waiting for pancakes.
We are so busy making lists.
We forget to look at the stars.
I spent 20 days on the Don Det island, South Laos. I indulged into days of doing nothing. Loved it. Spent my days reading, laughing, staring at strangers, stars and boats, eating pumpkin burgers, watermelons and samosas, making friends and watching George Clooney in Ocean’s trilogy.
I shed a tear when it was time to leave. I felt like I did not spend enough time enjoying the views of the wonderland. I knew it was time to leave. La dolce far niente started to feel slightly depressing.
I am learning to be here and now. I have realised that the place I am at now is actually where I want to be. It is sometimes tricky if you have been travelling for an extended period of time. You are always thinking about your next destination. If it is too hot, you can head somewhere cooler, if it feels lonely – you make friends. You become spoiled and might end up chasing places forgetting to be NOW.
I have learned that it is not where you are, but what you make out of it. No matter where you go, you can’t run from yourself. Sadly.
You must be insanely busy, but please do not forget to love yourself and make time to do those little things that you really love. Do not feel guilty for doing nothing.